Father Of Mars

Being a present father isn’t about being there only for milestones, its about just being there. This doesn’t mean being home all day, or even most of it. Its about creating a ritual that gives our family that creates a feeling of comfort. No matter what, at a certain time of the day, everyday, we’ll be there physically and emotionally.

There’s a lot of different ways this can look. For me that looks like cooking dinner. I like to cook a basic ingredient dinner like chicken and veggies. In my opinion basic ingredients are the key. You don’t want to create that ritual for your family just to be distracted by watching recipe videos or going back and forth between cooking and reading. Remember this is the time your family should know they can get your mostly undivided attention. Knowing how to cook a good basic ingredient dinner is crucial. It ensures you can give them that attention. At the very least, they know you can provide it.

It’s not about the amount of time, its about consistency and quality. It doesn’t need to be forced. There should be a time of the day, every day, when your family knows you’re really there. Ritual is consistency and consistency is everything. Remember quality over quantity. Coming home just to scroll isn’t quality time spent with your family.

Your family will create many more memories through consistency. This is more significant than just that once a year trip or those birthdays. Those “event” memories may hold more detail. However, remembering your father as being there for you will have a lot more impact when there are no more memories to be made. This is how you create a legacy as opposed to just raising a family.